Pain. It comes in many forms. Falling down and hurting yourself. Getting scalded or burnt. A failed relationship. Finding out that your love one is having an affair. Different forms of pain bringing about different types of emotions. The most hurting ones seem to be, for most people, finding out you were betrayed, cheated or even seeing your boyfriend, girfriend, husband or wife having an affair. What will we do? What will you do? Will it be sleepless nights? Confrontation? Pointing fingers? Focusing on whose fault is it rather than the situation at hand? What good does it do? Why ask the questions when he answers don't make a difference anymore? unless...harbouring on hope. Hope. What happens when we hope for the hopeless? Is there such a thing? Will what we expect and then not turn out the way we want it to be makes us upset and disappointed? Why does it go that way? We will get through all these emotional self-inflicted sufferings only when we choose to get over them. But how? More questions again and no answers.
It is always difficult when we are left hanging. It is always simpler when we know the answers. It is easy to say if only..and also easy to say certain things when there already known answers. So the begging question is still...so how? What can I do? How can I ease the pain? Do you think if you continue to talk about what you have gone through, whose fault it should be and all the wrongs, will it make a right? As the saying goes, 2 wrongs doesn't make a right. And likewise for affairs. The husband commits adultery, the wife finds out and then goes out and sleeps around. Does this mean the wife will feel better? How about the marriage is fine. The wife sleeps around because the marriage is getting boring and unsatisfying. In this sense, whose fault is it? Most of the time, it will be the one who's committed adultery. The doer. In reality, is it really true? Or we just perceive it that way and then it becomes true?
Slowly but surely, pain becomes misery when our questions are unresolved and we cannot let things go. You can only help yourself. No matter what other people say. Advice is all you get. We cannot tell you what to do because the one involved in that situation is you. Maybe if you stop focusing all your energy on what has already happened and why it happened, taking steps to learn new things, pick up a new hobby, go out with friends could help in easing the so-called psychological pain.
FACE IT! Brooding is not exactly the best way to go around it. Understanding that when there is pain, surely there will be unhappiness. Don't start asking why there should be because there just naturally is! Don't start finding excuses for yourself. Start finding the path to happiness. Start doing something for yourself. Love yourself. No harm. There is nothing to lose. Just try. It won't hurt will it? Why do we keep falling into the pit of unhappiness when the world out there is so vast and there are so many things we've yet to uncover. Life is short as it is. Why make it shorter with sadness and tears? Worth it?
Loneliness. I understand the feeling of being alone. Personal space. It is different from loneliness. When we have our own personal space, it gives us a breather from everything else, from work, from our boyfriends, girlfriends, wives and husbands and friends. It gives us time to reflect on ourselves and everyone else. We will also reflect on life. It varies from people to people. We should enjoy every minute of our lives I suppose. Be happy with the decision you make. If cannot be happy, just don't regret the decision. When unexpected events happen, work on how you can solve the problem rather than regreting and also get emotional. Things don't get done or get solved on its own just like that.
Actually I work on the principle that anything that happens be it sad or happy will pass and then become memories. Life is never smooth sailing anyway. We learn along the way and from the experiences of the journey. There is no hard and fast rule to living life. There are lots of trial and error. It is full of choices. Our choices and then our decisions make the difference to how things will turn out.
We shouldn't anticipate. Just let it come. Embrace it all. We shouldn't complicate the simple things. Communication can solve lots of misunderstandings. There are always alternatives. Some are just not what we are looking for and that's how it inflicts fear and create an obstacle to go forward. It is just whether we want to or not. Period.
It is always difficult when we are left hanging. It is always simpler when we know the answers. It is easy to say if only..and also easy to say certain things when there already known answers. So the begging question is still...so how? What can I do? How can I ease the pain? Do you think if you continue to talk about what you have gone through, whose fault it should be and all the wrongs, will it make a right? As the saying goes, 2 wrongs doesn't make a right. And likewise for affairs. The husband commits adultery, the wife finds out and then goes out and sleeps around. Does this mean the wife will feel better? How about the marriage is fine. The wife sleeps around because the marriage is getting boring and unsatisfying. In this sense, whose fault is it? Most of the time, it will be the one who's committed adultery. The doer. In reality, is it really true? Or we just perceive it that way and then it becomes true?
Slowly but surely, pain becomes misery when our questions are unresolved and we cannot let things go. You can only help yourself. No matter what other people say. Advice is all you get. We cannot tell you what to do because the one involved in that situation is you. Maybe if you stop focusing all your energy on what has already happened and why it happened, taking steps to learn new things, pick up a new hobby, go out with friends could help in easing the so-called psychological pain.
FACE IT! Brooding is not exactly the best way to go around it. Understanding that when there is pain, surely there will be unhappiness. Don't start asking why there should be because there just naturally is! Don't start finding excuses for yourself. Start finding the path to happiness. Start doing something for yourself. Love yourself. No harm. There is nothing to lose. Just try. It won't hurt will it? Why do we keep falling into the pit of unhappiness when the world out there is so vast and there are so many things we've yet to uncover. Life is short as it is. Why make it shorter with sadness and tears? Worth it?
Loneliness. I understand the feeling of being alone. Personal space. It is different from loneliness. When we have our own personal space, it gives us a breather from everything else, from work, from our boyfriends, girlfriends, wives and husbands and friends. It gives us time to reflect on ourselves and everyone else. We will also reflect on life. It varies from people to people. We should enjoy every minute of our lives I suppose. Be happy with the decision you make. If cannot be happy, just don't regret the decision. When unexpected events happen, work on how you can solve the problem rather than regreting and also get emotional. Things don't get done or get solved on its own just like that.
Actually I work on the principle that anything that happens be it sad or happy will pass and then become memories. Life is never smooth sailing anyway. We learn along the way and from the experiences of the journey. There is no hard and fast rule to living life. There are lots of trial and error. It is full of choices. Our choices and then our decisions make the difference to how things will turn out.
We shouldn't anticipate. Just let it come. Embrace it all. We shouldn't complicate the simple things. Communication can solve lots of misunderstandings. There are always alternatives. Some are just not what we are looking for and that's how it inflicts fear and create an obstacle to go forward. It is just whether we want to or not. Period.
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